Monkeys

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Monday, April 28, 2014

May Little Monkey and Big Monkeys Never Forget

May Little Monkey and Big Monkeys Never Forget

(Yom HaShoah: Holocaust Remembrance Day)

Yom HaShoah began Sunday evening on April 27th and ends Monday night on April 28th for 2014. 

I've been to the museum in DC a dozen times and no time have I gone that at some point my heart hasn't stopped. My throat not choked with unspilt tears. By the time I reach the bridge of photos.... my heart feels dead inside overcome with too much pain, grief, sorrow. 


These are not posed faces to be put inside frames and sold, they were real people, lives lost, stolen, under the banners of horrible hatred. Families broken apart, in some cases destroyed or left with no knowledge of other survivors scattered. We hear stories of the devastation of these families.  I personally know of one such story, a friend N. Csonka who once told me how is father and grandmother were under the impression for almost a decade that the other had perished only to randomly come across each other in California 10 years after the end of the war. Both having made their way to not only the United States but the West Coast thinking only they had survived. 

The photos rise well above ones head into a space like a bell tower, but holds no bells, no music, only loss. 


As you walk through the museum, watching videos, looking down into exhibits (some are too graphic to be out right displayed so those who can not stomache the images do not look down into these such exhibits), listening to testimonials, seeing the mountains and piles of shoes, hair clippings, luggage. All this while you carry with you a small booklet. As each floor and level passes you turn the pages to see, the life of a real person. You hold the life of a real person, and you walk trough the Holocaust with them, each moment and level at a time. When you reached the very end, see the final depth of the destruction and its toll of the world, feels its toll on your heart, there are computer stations.  Each time I find myself at this step I hold my breathe, hoping without hope. You see the computer will tell me whether my person lived, died, or in some cases uncertainty. 

Only once in the dozen times I have gone to the museum have I made it to the end and breathed emotions of relief that the person inside the booklet I held survived. All the rest perished and one unfortunate soul was unknown but suspected to be dead. 

When my son left for school this morning, I asked him again and again... what is today, until he could tell me in his own broken speech. 'Yom Ha Show Ah". What is it? "To remember the dead". As he gets older, we will talk more about it and when he's old enough, I will take him to see.  As horrible as it is to see, it is important, remembrance is important. Why? So 'Never Again'. 






Sunday, April 27, 2014

Life as a Manly Monkey

Life as a Manly Monkey

(if only us women could ever understand)



So my interest or amusement today was sprung by the manly art of Ted Slampyak. For those that don't know he is a comic strip creator of 'Little Orphan Annie' and has his own blog called the 'Art of Manliness'. 
I accidentally stumbled across one of his cartooned PSA's (Public Service Announcements) as best way to describe their appearance. Not sure whether the information was serious or being done in a joking light (it is in cartoon fashion), I decided to investigate more of his 'PSA art'. 


While I'm not 100% sure of the legitimacy of all his safety facts, each in their very own way reminds me of some man or another I have known or do know in my life. Men love being strong, being protectors, yet where is it they learn all the ins and outs of this protective strength? I've heard a number of insane stories over the years of adrenaline and testosterone filled escapades that honestly as a woman... I do not understand. (For example my ex biting of the head of a scorpion while deployed before it could bite him first). I've also seen many things of manhood that my eyes can not unsee nor can my brain figure out why?
(For example friends dueling tree branch style on the river during ice break up season at 3am{summertime in Alaska =sunlight at 3am} in the morning because of pride and honor). 


All men though seem to have this same flavor about them, either hidden or out for the world to see and youtube! Where though when we were all in school were men taught these unspoken things? Not to dare quote 'Fight Club' but the first rule of Fight club is you don't talk about Fight Club. Was there a secret meeting to learn handshakes? Behaviors? Most importantly were some of these meetings specifically mandatory while others were come if you like? (As seen in our next PSA... not all get attended obviously) 


While they may not all do it correctly, somehow they all know when something isn't handled correctly amoungst each other, so while some may not implement they certainly all still learn it!


Who could forget though every woman's favorite learned but not always applied man lesson:


The things that men inherently know just astounds me. They certainly did not learn it at the same time we all learned 2 times 2 is 4. Who ever there instructor was must have been part Drill Sgt, Evil Knievel, Bill and Ted, Einstein, Blackbeard, Lancelot, and John the Baptist! How else would men be what they are? 

...and of course because no post about men would be complete without this:


Knowing whomever their secret instructor or mentor was he most certainly had one for these for all his different parts. 


Anyone interested more in the works of Ted Slampyak and his cartooning 'The Art of Manliness' can visit his blog at :  http://www.artofmanliness.com/


Saturday, April 26, 2014

Life's Sneaky and Oh So Wrong Monkeys

Life's Sneaky and Oh So Wrong Monkeys

(if only we ever really stopped and thought)



For those who have no clue who Zoe Archer is.... bow down in awe! She is a romance writer with more creativity in her little typing finger than any of our mother's generation of romance writers. Because these are not the romance novels you used to sneak out of your mother's room and read when she wasn't looking! Her novels go far beyond, they are not romance, historical romance, thriller romance... she is part of a new generation of writers speaking to the inner geek in every woman. That romantic geek who until now didn't have an outlet except through elvish love written by men. Her genre: fantasy romance and steampunk romance. For those thinking to compare her to things like Twilight, Divergence, or the Mortal Instruments... all YA (Young Adult Fiction), slap that silly thought from your mind! Her work is fully adult with all the lovely naughty bits we love with a fantasy or steampunk twist. 

For fans of hers though that are connected up to her facebook for fans page, you also get to see she is a real woman, a real person. Who doesn't miss a beat as seen from the above clip and snip of a post from a few days ago on her face book page!

Because these are the real life things that sneak by us without a second thought. I love the fact Zoe (if only I could call her that... so I will!) is able to throw out such an indelicate subject to her readers to make a stance on something so important! How many novels of the romance persuasion have we read in our life time where the heroine is horrible raped, her virtue stolen by a rogue or family member by marriage and yet not 4-5 chapters later sometimes on a timeline of 2-3 weeks later she is willingly spreading her legs open for the hero of the book! The crushed and trampled flower brought back to life by the handsome, not always morally intact many times with his own damage hero. 

These are NOT realistic plot devices yet as we read them we have hardly questioned them in the past. I understand its fiction.... but even fiction has to have a few legs to stand on. Even authors who don't go through with the full act but use it as an almost occurrence so the heroine can get saved and then that night 'spread them'? BOOOOO! No woman recovers from trauma that fast emotionally!

So 3 tails swinging to Zoe Archer! Making her readers think and saying what should be obvious but has been a sneaky monkey getting by with so many woman readers without the reality to back it as a plot device!

For the author's facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/zoe.archer1?fref=nf



Life is a Messy Monkey

Life is a Messy Monkey...

(and messy monkeys never wait their turn in line)


Life has a habit of swarming together, not being patient and letting one item at a time flow through while the rest patiently wait. This week for example, I had my university finals writing some very lengthy papers, continued to deal with my son's special needs (autism and others) in switching his care over from one insurance to the new insurance, continued dealing with my ex's up and coming transition out of the military after a decade plus service and the PTSD minefield that goes with that, and finally learned one of my siblings passed away this week. (Not to mention all the minor chaos we all push aside because really.... its like water weight adding pounds we feel are just unecessary and ridiculous)

Short of admitting defeat what does one do? Recognize you are stuck between a rock and a hard place, with a lava floor and the sky falling- then do some construction modefications. Hang some pictures up on the rock and a hard place, add a roof for the falling debris, and learn how to turn the lava floor into a hotplate for cooking!

Yes, that is ridiculous.

But really, there is no answer. My ex with his PTSD says he can only take one moment one day at a time. I'm not sure that's my personal go to plan because some days feel like lifetimes!  Maybe though is it better to remember the Monkey we call life is messy and gets great joy in making us messy and to be okay with it. In feeing like we have to juggle everything without dropping, dripping, spilling anything, getting dirty and doing it immaculatly...

Remember to get dirty....to get messy with the Monkey. If it spills, drops or crashes while you deal, then take a moment to relax, maybe fingerpaint in the mess before you pick back up and deal again.  Your sanity will thank you for it.

My messy Monkeys aren't disappearing at the end of the day or week....things will be messy for awhile, some maybe even months or longer, but I have to just be okay with the spills and know... the messes will wash out, a little bleach, some water, and maybe a  gin and tonic to celebrate when its all cleaned up....and to challenge in defiance whatever new mess will eventually come this way ♥